Trickle down therapy, when one person in your friend group is able to get therapy, and teaches the rest of the group some of the strategies they have learned
Trickle down therapy, when one person in your friend group is able to get therapy, and teaches the rest of the group some of the strategies they have learned
(Source: quotemadness.com, via quotemadness)
seeing a teenage girl saying “i can’t help you change and become a better person. you need to see a psychologist for that” to her abusive boyfriend in a time when media loves to use the bad-boy-becomes-good-due-to-the-emotional-labour-of-his-girlfriend trope is actually revolutionary
We talk a lot about consent, and that’s a good thing. We talk a lot about autonomy, and that’s a good thing. We talk a lot about privacy, and that’s a good thing.
But we talk mostly about all of that in respect to sex, and relationships, and it’s important to remember this applies to other things, too.
If someone says, “don’t tell anyone I got this new job,” and you then tell people, you’ve violated their consent, their privacy, and their autonomy.
If a friend says, “I don’t like it when people touch my hair,” and you keep touching their hair, you have violated their consent, their autonomy, and their privacy.
If a coworker asks you not to tease them about their new boyfriend, even if it seems like gentle and friendly fun to you, and you do it, you’ve violated their consent, their autonomy, and their privacy.
People remember these things, and they hurt. Not as much as sexual assault, obviously. But those small violations of your wishes, those instances of disrespect, still hurt, and they can add up.
Consent doesn’t just apply to sex. Respect the wishes of others.
sometimes making tea is less about drinking it and more ab it keeping you company
not to be sappy on main BUT one thing that i really loved when studying linguistics was that the more important a word is, the earlier the concept of this thing was given a word. for example, the word water is similar in many similar languages (aqua, agua, água). so, the more important a word is, the more languages it’ll be similar across and the older this word will be, theoretically and generally speaking (many other things also affect this)
AND SO in my years studying linguistics, there was one word that was nearly identical across so many regionally different languages (though there are outliers of course), from europe to most of asia to subsaharan africa to indigenous languages. across nearly all languages this is the first word people learn how to say and maybe the first word humans in general officially named and defined:
- mamãe - portuguese
- 妈妈 (māmā) - chinese
- ਮੰਮੀ (mamī) - punjabi
- mamah - mayan (yucatec)
- мама - bulgarian, russian, ukrainian
- ماں (mäm) - urdu
- মা (mā) - bengali
- mẹ (may) - vietnamese
- ママ (mama) - japanese
- అమ్మ (am'ma) - telugu
- mama - quechua
- મમ્મી (mam'mī) - gujarati
- അമ്മ (am'ma) - malayalam
- amá - navajo
- 엄마 (omma) - korean
- māmā - native hawaiian
- onam - uzbek
- aana - yupik
- mema - tagish
- μαμά (mamá) - greek
- mama - swahili
- أمي (umi) - arabic
- mayi - chichewa
- माँ (ma) - hindi
- mam - dutch
- ម៉ាក់ (ma) - khmer
- แม่ (mæ̀) - thai
- அம்மா (am'mā) - tamil
- අම්මා (ammā) - sinhala
- amai - zulu
- ama - basque
- आमा (āmā) - nepali
- အမေ (amay) - myanmar (burmese)
- אמא (ima) - hebrew
- mamá - spanish
- mom/mum- english
this isn’t actually the first word because we teach babies this word (most likely), but because the “mama” or “ama” sounds are the easiest things for babies to say, and it’s nearly always the only thing they can say at first, and adults across all languages defined their language around that.
babies all over the world for thousands and thousands of years all started out blabbering sounds like “mama” and mothers everywhere were all like Oh Shit That’s Me! I’m Mama!
when fleabag said love isn’t something weak people do and i want someone to tell me how to live my life because so far i think ive been getting it wrong and women are born with pain built in and people are all we’ve got and the only person i’d run through an airport for is you and i love you it’ll pass and i think you know how to love better than any of us that’s why you find it all so painful
“Perhaps somewhere, someplace deep inside your being, you have undergone important changes while you were sad.”
- Rainer Maria Rilke
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men be like: oh no,, my ego, my poor ego! oh woman, could you spare a stroke? stroke my ego just once? oh, you refuse? that’s fine, i don’t mind. i diagnose you with whore
a healthy habit I’ve adopted recently is asking myself “how is this serving me”. I take this approach mostly when I’m scrolling through social media but it works for me in other aspects of life as well, such as when staying up late reading. Or what I’m feeding myself, sometimes it IS having that butter & honey on my fruit toast or having those cookies if it nourishes my soul. But having that question “how is this serving me” also lets me be conscious of how I am spending my time & resources. It allows me to tune into my goals and each step that either brings me closer or further from these
